Dear Annie: I’m 65 years old, and after years of focusing on everything and everyone else, I finally feel ready to date again. The only problem is — I’m not sure how to go about it, or if it’s even realistic at my age.

I’ll be honest: I have not been the best judge of character in the past. That makes me extra cautious now, especially when it comes to online dating. Every time I fill out one of those profiles, it feels less like I’m opening myself up to love and more like I’m filling out a job application. Between the high expectations, the endless questionnaires and the pressure to present myself just right, I end up logging off and wondering if any of this is worth it.

I do try to meet people in real life. I go to church. I serve on the board of a local organization. I put myself out there. But so far, Romeo hasn’t shown up, and honestly, I’m starting to lose steam.

I know the dating world is full of “sharks” and scammers, but I also believe in the possibility of love. I just don’t know where to look or how to keep my heart open without getting hurt — or feeling foolish.

Is it too late to find someone special? Or am I simply looking in the wrong places? — Tired of Swimming Alone

Dear Tired of Swimming Alone: First, please hear this loud and clear: It is absolutely not too late to find someone special. Love does not have an expiration date, and your desire for companionship is as natural and valid at 65 as it is at 25.

That said, you are not wrong. Modern dating can feel like a strange new world, especially online. Filling out those endless prompts and uploading your best photos can feel more like applying for a job than opening your heart. And yes, there are some sharks in the ocean. But not everyone out there is swimming with bad intentions.

The good news is that your instincts have already matured. The fact that you are more cautious now means you have learned from the past, and that will serve you well. Take your time, trust your gut and do not rush into anything that does not feel right.

You are also doing something very important: living a full life. You go to church. You serve your community. You show up. That is not nothing; it is everything. The more you stay connected to people and activities that bring you joy, the more you increase your chances of meeting someone who shares your values.

Do not be discouraged if Mr. Right has not appeared yet. Keep your heart open, your expectations realistic and your sense of humor intact. Love sometimes shows up when we are busy doing other things and when we least expect it. You have not missed the boat. You are just waiting for the right passenger.