Dear Annie: So I have one for you. I was out of town working, and when I got home, my wife was gone! We were having some marriage problems but were supposed to see a therapist after I returned home. I’ll say it again: When I did get home, she was gone!

She packed her stuff and left me and our dog all alone. I tried to call and text with no answer. I’m left in the dark trying to find out where everything went wrong. I have started therapy by myself to try to figure things out. Please help with some advice on how to keep going in life. — Left High and Dry

Dear High and Dry: First off, I want to say I am sorry for the way your wife handled this situation. It certainly adds to the trauma of a divorce, getting left without notice and being caught off guard. I am so glad that you began therapy, and while I know it will take time to heal, it certainly is good to be rid of someone who was that inconsiderate and cold.

Dear Annie: I am at a loss because my son is getting married, and his soon-to-be wife wants it all in terms of a big wedding. She keeps asking me to help pay for things, and I do what I can on a fixed income, but I can’t just keep handing over money when I can’t pay my own bills.

I am trying to keep the peace, but it never seems to be enough. Week after week, I am asked for money. Please help, as I am not sure how to deal with this. Can you tell me what to do? — Signed at a Loss

Dear Loss: What you do is say no. No can be a full sentence. You don’t need an explanation; just simply say no. However, you can enlist help from your son by pointing out that the money they are requesting is needed for your basic bills. But offer to help in another way — either with your time or support for your son and soon-to-be daughter-in-law.

Dear Annie: Last month, a court process server came to our house, and I had asked my wife not to answer the door because I needed to buy myself a little more time on an ongoing custody case. But she thought one of her relatives who doesn’t like me sent a restraining order. That was ridiculous because I don’t even visit that relative.

So she accepted the paperwork and completed the process service. It was my custody paperwork, of course. I feel betrayed. Not only did my wife serve me, but she was hoping it was a restraining order from someone else. Additionally, it put me on a tight schedule with my case. I thought she had my back; what should I do? — So Betrayed

Dear So Betrayed: What you should do is get your custody in order. Don’t blame your wife for your legal situation with your children. As far as your wife thinking that someone was sending you a restraining order, that is something you have to speak with her about. The whole situation seems like a mess that you have to clean up, starting with yourself and not blaming your wife. Don’t shoot the messenger, as the old saying goes, and no, your wife was not in the wrong.