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Overshadowed by friend’s outgoingness

Dear Annie: I have a close friend who I love very much, but whenever we’re together, whether in social settings or professional environments, it feels like I’m always playing second fiddle to their charisma and charm. I value our friendship and genuinely enjoy her company, but I just can’t help feeling overlooked and invisible at times. It’s disheartening. I feel totally unworthy of attention and recognition when I’m around her. I’ve tried to tell her this, but she doesn’t seem to really get it. She just says, “What are you talking about?! People love you!” I ...

Try this trick for hanging pictures

Dear Heloise: My husband was hammering a nail to hang a picture in our home and hit his thumb. It was hard enough (and painful enough) to cause his nail to turn black. He finally got out a small wrench to hold the nail in place while he hammered it in. No more hammering his thumb! -- Christine P., Hillsboro, Oregon Christine, that’s a good idea, and here is another item you can use to hold a nail: It’s a clothespin! It will hold the nail securely while you hammer it in. -- Heloise SEND A GREAT HINT TO: Heloise@Heloise.com SCUFF MARKS Dear Heloise: I kept getting scuff ...

Dear Annie: I was abused by my dad as a child, and my relationship with my mother was hell growing up. She was verbally and physically abusive toward me well into my 20s. She began a new relationship and things got worse. The situation between us got a little better when she became sick and I had to take care of her. My siblings didn’t pitch in, even though she treated them better than she did me. I have two daughters now, and she makes comments or critiques the way I parent. If I defend myself, she calls me disrespectful and says I’m hurting her feelings. I am very close to my two ...

Laundry bag used a tool for soups

Dear Heloise: I used a small, new zippered laundry bag to make soup. For chicken soup, I put the bones, skin and fat in the bag, then put the whole thing in the soup pot. All the flavor is added to the soup without the mess. Just empty the bag and discard it. I also did this with ham bones and scraps for ham-and-bean-soup. -- Cindy Fox, via email MOVING HINT Dear Heloise: Invariably, when you are moving, there’s always one box that gets lost. Maybe it was stolen or left behind, or something else happend to it. But if you mark each box No. 1, No. 2 and so on, then when you get your ...

A college chapbook

A lady named Marla, who lives at Cherokee, Iowa recently mailed me an antique artifact. I know that it’s antique because it’s a little bit older than me. The relic in question is a chapbook that was published by Iowa State College in September of 1954. The 70-year-old booklet contains a collection of essays that were penned by students who were enrolled in English 101, 102, and 103. I’ve never attended college, so I have no idea what those numbers mean. For all I know, they refer to the ages of the professors who taught the courses. The book’s essays are all well written. ...

Worried about how lonely my life will be

Dear Annie: I am very confused. I have a friend who is 70 and is in the hospital. She has put a mutual friend, “Dorothy,” down as her daughter. She has a son, but he is a man-child. Our friend Dorothy has so many obligations as it is. Dorothy and I are close, and we are similar ages. I do not have siblings, since my brother passed away at a young age. I have an 85-year-old father who has been both mother and father to me. I have had “Fred” as my life partner for nine years already! You see, after my father passes, I will have Fred to lean on. But when Fred passes, I will ...